Is He Controlling/Possessive?I think my boyfriend might be controlling/possessive, obviously. Here are things I consider signs: 1) When I mention interacting with another male he always says he feels like he's competing, although I always tell him he's not. 2) When I'm talking to another guy I have to tell him I not only have a boyfriend, but my boyfriend and I are serious. If I don't, he'll talk about almost nothing else until I do. 3) Once I tell the male acquaintence, if I hear from him again I have to remind him, and if I don't my boyfriend will talk of almost nothing else until I do. 4) He says many people are lying to me, but I'm only half-sure of this one because he does provide what I consider evidence. 5) When we e-mail, I have to start off with "Hi Jay,", and I have to have some warm/loving signiture at the bottom, often a mirror-image of whatever his signiture was. 6) I always have to call him a pet name, I can never call him "buddy", or "dude". 7) Every time he calls me a name, or says something affectionate, I HAVE to say it back EVERY TIME. 8) I recently went a little while without saying I love him, which of course bothered him...I asked what he'd do if I didn't go back to saying it, he kept saying he didn't know, and that the question was making him uncomfortable...I decided to ask what he would not do, he said he didn't know that either...after I asked if he'd ever hit me for it. I'm typing these things off the top of my head, so there are probably things I haven't thought of. I plan on going to a certain college to be with him in person, but don't want to end up abused, or killed, or anything like that. What should I do? EDIT MADE ON 6/20: for #4, he only says males lie to me, there's only been 1 instance where he said a female is lying to me...for about 3 months we have been planning a wedding...he says he wants to know everything about me, but when i tell him about an interaction i had w/another guy, he asks why i'm telling him...1 day i told him i would appreciate it if he stopped trying to make me say affectionate things back to him every time, & he cried, accusing me of trying to be mean. |